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  • Valerievlrny@disabled.social
    Aug 22, 2026, 9:29 PM

    Gentle reminder, when someone is sharing some small piece of resistance they have done, DO NOT SHIT ON IT. Do not tell them it isn't enough or it's still bad because blah blah other stuff...

    Everyone is tired and overwhelmed and trying to find some accessible way they can push back. Cheer that!

    Celebrate the small; celebrate the imperfect.

    No single action is gonna solve everything, but a whole bunch of small actions start the sea change.

    Don't punch down when we all need lifting up.

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  • TroikaFoxDenDu68@vivaldi.net
    Aug 22, 2026, 10:03 PM

    @vlrny

    very well said my friend and it needed to be said ... thank you ❤️‍🔥 .... Boosted 👍🏾

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  • Star12Mt@Masto.NYCStar12Mt@masto.nyc
    Aug 22, 2026, 10:27 PM

    @vlrny Good reminder! I know I can get pretty pessimistic around midnight after reading too much news that day.

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  • julien sueurjuliensueur@vivaldi.net
    Aug 23, 2026, 11:46 AM

    @Star12Mt @vlrny
    @kerravonsen
    Got your Point. Well, Resistance Starts with the Truth... I'd Rather Shit on It like you Say at Least for Making a Constructive Point. I Actually Call this Lifting Up and Being Realistic Preventing Going in the "Wrong" Direction Once Again. I Don't Think Imperfection is Better than Perfection lol

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  • Valerievlrny@disabled.social
    Aug 23, 2026, 2:14 PM

    @juliensueur
    First off, unless someone asks for your critique of how they are doing, it is very likely unwelcome.

    Secondly you have failed to grasp the core concept of what I stated. Just because you think shitting on someone else's efforts is helpful (and unsolicited criticism is 100% shitting on someone) doesn't mean you didn't just shit on them. And what I am saying is don't do that.

    It's demotivating and the opposite of helpful. And what you want is to help.

    @Star12Mt @kerravonsen

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  • julien sueurjuliensueur@vivaldi.net
    Aug 23, 2026, 3:32 PM

    @vlrny @Star12Mt @kerravonsen
    Fair Enough, next time I'll Just Lie and Motivate Them in Their Bullshits Until They Realize their Mistake by Themselves like I Do or i Did in the Past. Then : Good Luck ! Appreciate what you are Doing ;) By the Way, I Think Everything is Criticism Anyway, Good or Bad

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  • Valerievlrny@disabled.social
    Aug 23, 2026, 4:31 PM

    @juliensueur
    Sigh.... You've now had two opportunities to listen, and squandered them both.

    So here's some Unfiltered Truth to help you Do Better:

    Interacting with you has been profoundly unpleasant. You seem to be quite the asshole. Which is why I am blocking you now.

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  • Scary AustinMaryAustinBooks@mstdn.social
    Aug 23, 2026, 6:37 PM

    @NatureMC @vlrny
    Yes, thank you for helping me find another person to block! Any time someone makes a great, common sense post like yours, I look through the replies for the jerks I haven't blocked yet.

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  • soaprootsoaproot@sfba.social
    Aug 24, 2026, 4:42 PM

    @vlrny I read the first reply, thought, hmm, looks blockworthy (hostility, lack of engaging in any constructive way). There's almost always a second message which confirms that and this time there indeed was and I blocked. Then saw this thread about other people reaching the same conclusion.

    I say that not because I deserve a medal (I'm sure I don't), just encouraging other people to recognize this pattern of behavior and don't be afraid to block people if it seems warranted to you. @juliensueur@vivaldi.net

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  • secretslothsecretsloth@mastodon.art
    Aug 23, 2026, 3:48 PM

    @juliensueur @Star12Mt @vlrny @kerravonsen so you're saying it's better to do nothing than to do something? Because what you're doing here is coming into a disabled person's comments, someone who is followed by a lot of other disabled folks like myself, many of us are housebound or bedbound and literally cannot "do" very much. We get upset because we are constantly told that what we can do is not right or not enough, and it makes us feel like we shouldn't bother doing anything at all.

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  • secretslothsecretsloth@mastodon.art
    Aug 23, 2026, 3:52 PM

    @juliensueur @Star12Mt @vlrny @kerravonsen It actually takes a LOT of our daily energy allowance for some of us to make an extra phone call or email, which may be things that others barely have to think about at all, but for us, we may be risking absolute exhaustion the next day for doing one small extra thing outside our routine. And here you are saying it's fine to go ahead and shit on people for not being perfect enough in YOUR opinion? And who the hell are you?

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  • julien sueurjuliensueur@vivaldi.net
    Aug 23, 2026, 5:22 PM

    @Star12Mt @vlrny
    Thanks for the Blocking. You Know, in This World, Everyone is Kind of Disabled, Psychologicaly or Physically. Me First lol. And for Answering, I am a Nobody just Passing By Waiting for my Own Death.

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  • Gareth Kitchengruff@stroud.social
    Aug 22, 2026, 10:31 PM
    @vlrny
    In my Cllr role I keep saying to activists; I can only work with what I've got! It's often never enough. But this, in reality, is how progress is made.
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  • Perrin42Perrin42@mastodon.social
    Aug 22, 2026, 11:34 PM

    @vlrny

    But what if their small piece of resistance was shitting on something? Wouldn't it be best to shit on something in solidarity? Frankly, is there anything in this administration that doesn't deserve to be shit on?

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  • Valerievlrny@disabled.social
    Aug 23, 2026, 2:38 PM

    @Perrin42
    Cheeky answer:
    It's hard enough getting people's hearts and minds aligned, to get butts all lined up to shit in solidarity would be a real challenge.

    More seriously, cheering on individual efforts is still an act of solidarity.

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  • Perrin42Perrin42@mastodon.social
    Aug 23, 2026, 2:41 PM

    @vlrny

    You know, you're right. And with the current state of food inspections in the US, the chance of people's shit being solid is also far less. Just another complication about getting people aligned in resistance.

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  • Kerr Avonsen (she/her)kerravonsen@mastodon.au
    Aug 23, 2026, 12:14 AM

    @vlrny
    Those who punch down are expressing their anger in all directions. Perhaps they think that scolding will prick people to greater effort; perhaps not.

    Yes, it is not enough, it is never enough, because, as you say, no single action is going to solve everything.

    As the saying goes, "The perfect is the enemy of the good." Those who demand perfection are always going to be disappointed.

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  • Valerievlrny@disabled.social
    Aug 23, 2026, 1:59 PM

    @kerravonsen @geonz
    Good discussion! Whether it's performative or not, a lot of uncertain people trying to find ways to engage will be lurking and would see folks being shot down for being perforative and then doubt themselves and their motives and be less likely to try something out of their comfort zone. It demotivates all around.

    It isn't always about who you're talking to, it's also about who's quietly listening.

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  • Bob WilliamsBobWilliams@mindly.social
    Aug 23, 2026, 3:09 AM

    @vlrny 🏆 Great note. I hate it when people do that. If they need to judge someone, loan them a mirror.

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  • cybershadowcybershadow@defcon.social
    Aug 23, 2026, 4:37 AM

    @vlrny I love this….. I find myself frustrated or hopeless because I’ll think to myself “my small act of resistance doesn’t make change”. I needed to hear this so thank you.

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  • Viktoria D. Richards/Uddelhexev_d_richards@literatur.social
    Aug 23, 2026, 10:34 AM

    @cybershadow @vlrny

    It does!
    The humans in power want us to loose hope and think, our small efforts do not matter, but they do.

    Every drop counts!
    Every light, no matter how small, contributes!
    And with many of the little actions, we can become a flood.
    Just keep going in your pace!💪

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  • OggieOggie@woof.group
    Aug 23, 2026, 7:21 AM

    @vlrny
    How do you eat an elephant, indeed.

    One bite at a time.

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  • Wortex17Wortex17@mastodon.gamedev.place
    Aug 23, 2026, 7:52 AM

    @vlrny
    Yes please!

    This is true for so many things that may not register as "resistance" as well.
    If it's the direction you want the world to go, celebrate it, encourage it, don't belittle it, even if it's not <there> yet.

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  • 6@possum.city
    Aug 23, 2026, 10:33 AM

    @vlrny@disabled.social yes, tho this doesn't mean there should be all fluff and no criticism
    it just means you should focus on the good parts, and "point positive", towards how to make things even better, instead of negative, of what they did wrong or are in danger of doing wrong
    and ofc try to minimize the amount of criticism in any one feedback, too much will just make you feel like you're shit at it, but a little bit of     actionable feedback can help you move forward much more easily

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  • Valerievlrny@disabled.social
    Aug 23, 2026, 2:21 PM

    @6 Well said.

    We need a lot more "yes and..." and less of the "yeah but..."

    Focus on where you want things to move and build on that.

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  • Maria Langermlanger@mastodon.world
    Aug 23, 2026, 12:36 PM

    @vlrny @grumpy4n6 You are absolutely right and I am probably guilty of doing this. Sorry.

    It's very frustrating and discouraging when so many people think that their little tiny thing -- signing an online petition, wearing a certain color hat, sharing a meme -- is going to turn the world around. Especially when so many of these people fail to do the big things: vote, call their Senators and Congress people, attend Townhall meetings. It's the bragging about Slactivism that I'm against.

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  • Kerr Avonsen (she/her)kerravonsen@mastodon.au
    Aug 23, 2026, 9:49 PM

    @mlanger @vlrny @grumpy4n6
    Imperfection or nothing: pick one. Perfection is NOT available.

    You are assuming that it is a choice between doing a small thing and doing a big thing. It isn't. It's a choice between doing a small thing and doing nothing.

    If you scorn people for doing small things, then "nothing" is what you will get. You may prefer "nothing", but I do not.

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  • Matt McIrvinmattmcirvin@mathstodon.xyz
    Aug 23, 2026, 12:49 PM

    @vlrny I think some of this disparagement activity is ratfucking sponsored by the Bad Guys.

    It's kind of like the 1960s adage that the guy in your radical group who tells you you need to stop messing around with useless protests and get violent is the undercover cop.

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  • Valerievlrny@disabled.social
    Aug 23, 2026, 2:03 PM

    @mattmcirvin excellent point. It absolutely is part of the authoritarian playbook to demotivate and generate a sense of powerlessness and inevitability.

    Also, thank you for "ratfucking" that's a new phrase for me. All my old swear words are worn out.

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  • Colincolinstu@birdbutt.com
    Aug 23, 2026, 1:18 PM

    @vlrny if I could pin other folks’ posts… this would be the one.

    YESSS.

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  • subrealzsubrealz@infosec.exchange
    Aug 23, 2026, 1:25 PM

    @vlrny
    Never be silent.

    It is all about moving the needle.

    And eventually send them back the flood, so they drown in their own shit.

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  • OddOpinions5failedLyndonLaRouchite@mas.to
    Aug 23, 2026, 1:47 PM

    @vlrny

    Is one allowed to ask:

    This specific action seems less useful then this other action, so why do the former ?

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  • Valerievlrny@disabled.social
    Aug 23, 2026, 1:55 PM

    @failedLyndonLaRouchite
    Nope.
    Unless they ask for a critique re the efficiency of their resistance don't offer one. What they need to hear is "yay you!" or "good job pushing back!"

    You are however allowed to ask:

    "How can I help?"

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  • OddOpinions5failedLyndonLaRouchite@mas.to
    Aug 23, 2026, 1:59 PM

    @vlrny

    well, I've been protesting since we tried to levitate the pentagon and I think you are wrong

    it drives me insane all the time and energy people put into useless "protests"

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