@EmeraldRose I'm about to sound like one of those grumpy old people, but parents these days are so incredibly permissive. Half the shit I see these kids do my parents never would have tolerated that. Holy bananas! I'm glad you got them to stop, but where the fuck are the parents? I asked this question a lot and so far I have no answer.
@pawpower @EmeraldRose For real, I would be in so much trouble if I acted like that growing up too. We do sound old both of us Rox lol
@startrek2025 @pawpower I would be too. It is not a matter of whether you have a disability or not, either (see my last reply to Roxy). You still need to parent. This could be a hot topic so I'll just leave it here.
@startrek2025 @EmeraldRose I am telling you what if my parents caught me banging on the walls of an apartment or a hotel my butt would be outside doing chores, pulling weeds because their logic was that if I had enough energy to be disruptive, then I needed to redirect it to something productive. But oh no these days it's all about letting little Johnny express himself and when people have a problem with it suddenly, they are the problem because they expect people to have standards when dealing with others.
@pawpower @startrek2025 oh my god thank you Roxy, thank you. I appreciate you so much. No he was hitting the floor so hard it made our apartment shake. He bangs on the walls, screams, and acts like he's dying because he doesn't get his way and if we get mad about it, we're the problem.
@pawpower @startrek2025 There fallback is. Oh he's autistic. Well i'm blind, so when you do shit like that it scares the ever loving shit out of me. I am so glad someone said it though, truly.
@EmeraldRose @startrek2025 I am blind. It doesn't mean my parents allowed me to walk around touching anyone or anything just because I couldn't see it. There is a place at a time and just like children with autism if they have stimming behavior that makes them feel better such as yelling or rocking then parents and teachers need to teach them about appropriate times and places to engage in these behaviors. This disability as an excuse thing is bullshit. And it's why I see kids who are in high school and they are not going to be able to function in the adult world because nobody has ever told them no. Anyway, don't even get me started lol
@pawpower @startrek2025 I mean, yeah, I am too, and it doesn't mean my parents allowed me to do that either. His stemming is not what I'm worried about, it is literally his fits that consist of him screaming, kicking the wall, stomping on the floor so hard popcorn ceiling comes down from our own ceiling. And all they say are like, "Oh well we're trying to calm him down, we don't know why he went off." Probably because, you told him no. no is a bad word. It means you can't have the thing you want. And the shit thing is, his Father used to just give in, literally.
@pawpower I have seen the adult result of that way too many times when I worked doing AT training. People who may have been okay in school but as adults they can not function very well at all. @EmeraldRose @startrek2025
@bmoore123 @pawpower @startrek2025 Yeah, we're just afraid he's going to literally when he gets older, punch a wall when he gets angry.
@EmeraldRose almost certainly he will end up in a situation where his behavior will not be tollerated and that will not end well for him. try going to school and hitting other kids or even punching the wall and stuff. and will get much worse if he is still that way as an adult. still ,what a pain in the ass for you! @pawpower @startrek2025
@bmoore123 @EmeraldRose @startrek2025 Also, if he is older, and he punches someone or punches someone's property, the chances are very high that they will call the police, and there are very sad stories with very bad endings where this kind of situation happened and the person in question did not have a happy ending we'll just put it that way, so it is extra incumbent upon the parents while the child is small to figure out a plan for these behaviors and work on getting them under control before something like that occurs.
@pawpower yes, this was my line of thinking. @EmeraldRose @startrek2025
@bmoore123 @pawpower @startrek2025 I honestly think they don't really give a shit, tbh.
@EmeraldRose well, eventually they will find out! @pawpower @startrek2025
@pawpower @bmoore123 @startrek2025 Yeah, I very much hope he doesn't do that. I don't think it would matter if he is autistic or not, in that case.
@bmoore123 @pawpower @startrek2025 Yeah, it is a pain in the ass.
@EmeraldRose @startrek2025 It sounds like the parents need to talk to his school or to the people that deal with his health insurance and get respite care or some other program in place because it is not anyone else's damn responsibility to parent your child.
@pawpower @startrek2025 i know, but I don't think they want to put him in a respite care home, just make it everyone else's problem, and I am not saying that because I'm callous, but if you cannot handle your child when he does things like this, then you need serious help because that is not okay.
@EmeraldRose @startrek2025 There are respite services that will come to your house depending on the state where you live, but also yes they need to figure something out because if nobody is teaching him, there is a potential for these behaviors to escalate and eventually someone is going to tell him no, and it is not going to be in a way that the parents would prefer.
@pawpower @startrek2025 Yeah. I took my anti-depressants so I didn't just go up there and scream at him to stop being a little spoiled brat. He has a habbit of crying when he doesn't get his way, and not even real tears, simply crying because he isn't getting what he wants, and if that doesn't work, he kicks, screams, hits things, and people... It's rediculous. He has already gotten one more strike before he is kicked out of public school completely and off the bus.
@EmeraldRose Yikes, it sounds like a really chaotic situation. I'm sure not what you wanted to deal with on a Saturday morning or any day really but damn!
@pawpower Yeah, it is. But we will survive. Yeah, it's the weekend. rofl
@EmeraldRose Sounds like dudly
@Vol4life8657 rofl. Right?
@EmeraldRose At that point, I don't care what the issues are, someone needs to get that kid under control
@Vol4life8657 Yeah.
@EmeraldRose and of course they'll be like it's his disability. do ***not*** get me started. Your child does this shit, he'll get kicked off the bus end of thank you for fucking playing. @pawpower @startrek2025
@munchkinbear @pawpower @startrek2025 Yes, and they do say that. Always. They say, Oh he's autistic. You know that though, right? He's autistic. Oh yeah... but i know plenty of autistic people who don't do that shit.
@pawpower @startrek2025 Or, not a respite care home, I mean like program, sorry. LOL. Still half asleep.
@pawpower yeah, this very much. I get that when kids have a fit, it can be exhausting and easier to give in but it will end up bad! @EmeraldRose @startrek2025
@bmoore123 @pawpower @startrek2025 Yup yup.I agree.
Oct 3, 2026, 4:50 PM@pawpower @startrek2025 @EmeraldRose you know my parents would do the same thing like they would literally do the exact same thing or they’ll be like OK since you wanna be disruptive that’s fine. Come and clean the house and then when you’re done cleaning the house, they will have us go and pull all the weed out of the yard and then when we’re done doing all the chores, they would still probably have us kneeling on some rice. I don’t know if any of you’ve done that it’s not fun.
@Luna_wolf @pawpower @startrek2025 I have never knelt on Rice, but that sounds horrid.
Oct 3, 2026, 4:54 PM@EmeraldRose @pawpower @startrek2025 whoever invented that needs to be whacked in the head with a tuba because it fucking sucks. It is the worst thing you can possibly do ever there are a lot of things, I guess that are more terrible than that but but like it’s really bad.
@Luna_wolf @pawpower @startrek2025 Yeah, i understand, it seems that way.
Oct 3, 2026, 4:59 PM@EmeraldRose @pawpower @startrek2025 we are from the Caribbean so shit like this is sort of the standard. This is why kids don’t do stuff like that around here. and if they do well, they will thoroughly regret it. there’s a lot of things that happen over here that I don’t agree with, but yeah, this is partly one of them. The only thing I would take out of it is the kneeling on rice.
-Aria
@Luna_wolf @EmeraldRose @pawpower @startrek2025 Look... I get punishing a child when they do something they shouldn't, especially if they know they shouldn't. And no should definitely be a word in a parents vocabulary, but there is punishment, and then there is abuse. If your child is being "disruptive," yes, perhaps a punishment is in order, but some things just shouldn't be done. Kneeling on rice, that is definitely one of them. Subjecting anyone, let alone a child, to extended periods of pain is simpley torcher/abuse, know matter the case there in.
-Symvara
Oct 3, 2026, 5:08 PM@dragonwolfsp @EmeraldRose @pawpower @startrek2025 like I said most of the things I gave in that list. I agree with except for the kneeling on rice that is not OK I’ve been through it and I know firsthand that that is really really not OK.
-Aria
Oct 3, 2026, 7:01 PM@pawpower @startrek2025 @EmeraldRose Why is it always Johnny though? Lol
@startrek2025 @pawpower @EmeraldRose I'd have gotten an ass whippin.
@pawpower I have no idea. They blame everything on his autism but don't stay outside to watch him. They probably di dnot give him what he wanted and so he pitched a fit. If you tell him no, he goes into full drag out drop down meltdown mode and refuses to cooperate. I don't think they even have him in a specialized program. I know that autism is a disorder. i know that, but I don't want him to come through my floor. He literally went all up into someone's house when they weren't home and is obsessed with the kids next door. They can't even go outside without him running down the stairs. I understand, but I don't. Can you explain some of that to me, because I'm bout to walk up the stairs and tell the parents to parent.
@pawpower and don't the parents get annoyed? they have to put up with the noise too! @EmeraldRose
@bmoore123 @pawpower They simply ignore him, I think.
@EmeraldRose that ignoring a kid who is losing it must be a magical skill that I clearly missed getting! Mine is a young adult now but when he used to do those things, there was no ignoring it. @pawpower
@bmoore123 @pawpower Yeah, it drives me batshit.
@pawpower @EmeraldRose Never had to do that with mine. I just use 'The Voice' on them when they were young, that was enough. Very much enough.
@FreakyFwoof @pawpower Yeah, the voice in my case I can use too and they will stop. I use it on dogs too and they listen too, but I think there is a difference of you spending time with your kids, because you do Andre, to simply letting your kids rule the household.