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  • AskPippa🇨🇦AskPippa@c.im
    Oct 7, 2026, 7:27 PM

    One of the worst things you can do to your kids is not doing the Swedish death cleaning yourself. Or even half a death cleaning.
    Am in the middle of clearing out a house. It’s been a near full time job for a month. Sorting out the junk, looking for hidden family mementos, giving stuff to charities via multiple trips, prepping for a low level auction just so strangers can take stuff away, and so on. There’s a point when you just start tossing stuff.
    Clear out your belongings! They might mean something to you, but to everyone else it’s just stuff.
    Find that thing you forgot you had? If it’s not important enough to remember— out!
    There’s that pile of dusty stuff you meant to fix that’s been there for 10 years. Seriously, you’re not going to fix it. Get rid of it.
    Oh my, I have 6 of those? Keep one, rehome the rest.
    It doesn’t fit me anymore but.. nope.
    And your special collection of X — consider paring it down.
    Your adult kids are busy. They’ll fight over how to approach the problem. It’ll stress them out and take them away from doing things they need to do for their kids, etc.. A lot of your stuff will end up in dumpsters if you don’t take care of it yourself — while you’re still able to.
    -end rant-

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  • Jonobiejonobie@social.coop
    Oct 7, 2026, 7:32 PM

    @AskPippa Cosigning this so hard. I had to do a lot of the cleanout while one parent was still alive (but grieving the recent death of the other), and it took my entire polycule and BFF weeks to get through the house the two of them had lived in for 45+ years. A lot of stuff they would have potentially rehomed just got tossed, because at some point, I lost all fucks to give.

    Good luck. That sounds exhausting. <3

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  • AskPippa🇨🇦AskPippa@c.im
    Oct 7, 2026, 9:11 PM

    @jonobie This is an in-laws house. The family all live on the other side of the country so it’s up to just hubby and me. That’s just how it worked out. But dad in law should’ve downsized years ago when he was able.
    On the bright side there will be a contents auction whereby winning bidders have to pick stuff up. And I’m bringing some of my own stuff to get rid of in the auction (there’s a fee but as long as we break even it simplifies getting rid of most stuff including furniture).

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  • Pinchy63 🇨🇦Pinchy63@ottawa.place
    Oct 7, 2026, 7:36 PM

    @AskPippa
    My mother started telling me to give this and that to so and so when she’s gone. I told her she better do it while she’s alive because I won’t remember. Anyways, she’s taken my advice and given some stuff away.

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  • Carolanniecarolannie@c.im
    Oct 7, 2026, 7:58 PM

    @AskPippa I told my daughter I was paring down,, and she said, "Good. Do more of it."

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  • ZenHeathen 🇨🇦 🎃ZenHeathen@beige.party
    Oct 7, 2026, 8:30 PM

    @AskPippa My wife has had to go through her mother's stuff so many times in recent memory (apartment maintenance, can't find her pills, what have you) that she knows where everything is. And the old woman's a *heavy* smoker, and the entire place and everything in it will stink forever. So when the time comes, she's going to go in there and take the three small things that matter to her, then we're going to open the door and put up a sign, "free, come take it", and hope that everything goes. Anything left goes to "1-800-Junk" or whoever.

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  • AskPippa🇨🇦AskPippa@c.im
    Oct 7, 2026, 9:03 PM

    @ZenHeathen My mom was a heavy smoker. We had to sort through her gross house when she went into long term care. She had collected antiques, all of which were damaged or turned out to be repros. She had thought them valuable and just about everything got dumped or sent to thrift stores . But AFTER I had to prove every single antique wasn’t worth anything. It took months. Still miffed about it.

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