....Patricia Routeledge was the narrator for an audiobook of Wuthering Heights?

I gotta find this. brb.

blew a load inside an unbelievably hot gentleman at recon.

I never really cum at these events so that felt fucking good

I don't know why, but I was always drawn to kink even as a teen. Maybe it was a 'safe' way for me to express my sexuality since it wasn't intimate. Maybe I felt like I lacked control and the thought of being the one to take it away was appealing to me. Maybe I would've been kinky no matter how I would've been raised.

But the life I lead now is one the world I come from would call filth. for so many reasons. And yet- here I am. and its where, I feel, I do belong.

I still can’t believe I used to be a quiet Yeshiva student afraid of even cursing, doing everything that was right even though it made me miserable.

Things I love- literature, theatre, film- are no longer derided by my peers as dangerous to ones mind and soul.

I can eat what I want. I can speak how I want. What is most important is what *I* decide is most important.

Marching in pride today, in leather.

I say this a lot, so forgive me for repeating myself, but if you were to show my younger self who I’ve become he wouldn’t believe you.

But I’ve become everything I’ve wanted and feared within myself. I used to dream about living a life filled with kink, where it was something of a norm. And I’d tell myself that was twisted and sinful and I’d bury it.

mind you I dont think this was taken as seriously as titles generally seem to be. you run a monthly contest like that and its not like you can give each winner support or expect each one to actually go out into the community in a sash.

shared by a friend doing a deep dive into titleholders and there history.

and people think there's too many pointless titles now. this dude in the 70s was running a contest for every month of the year

they just announced the 'hi gay!' girl from tiktok/kayla from hacks for Mary on Broadway.

Im going to rob a fucking BANK so I can see this anyone who does is going to be truly blessed.

very fun gear social, I stayed till the end which I rarely do.

there was someone new to fetish as well, so, helped introduce him to some people, so that was good. was a really sweet guy as well.

it wasnt easy- I had to go to an out patient rehab program. And that was also, weirdly, kind of healing in its own way?

I was the only queer guy in an all mens support group and with the exception of one really crappy person, having healthy, open dialogue with straight men, who I think like most queers Ive a bit distrust of....was oddly healing?

Reaching a point where I was willing to open up took a long time. I wish I'd come to terms with it sooner.

Im a little under a week from being a year sober-ish.

I say soberish since I've had three lapses in that time. But like....three lapses in a year is a huge achievement in its own way?

The thought of going a month without a drink used to actually stress me out. it seemed impossible.

I get really emotional thinking about this. Im really proud of myself.

I know 'fag' can also refer to sticks you burn which is why its used as slang for ciagrettes, and I know its (to my understanding) a more american slur for gays, but like....still?

excuse me its was called what now

Okay this is actually fascinating.

One of the oldest, and for literally centuries, most popular explanations for why some men were into getting beaten was a belief that there bodies were colder than others, and that by hitting them there body temperature would increase and this would allow them to actually get aroused.

me, having taken blows from a flogger: "wow I hath been charmed by this invigorating beating"

so I found this book on the history of corporal punishment as a kink and this is apparently the oldest reference to it the author could find and idk, the phrasing of this is very funny to me:

looking at a reddit thread on r/AskUK asking if anyone knows any real life 'hyacinth buckets' and dear lord I hope this is true because its f*cking hilarious

related

started 'Lost Souls' by Poppy Z Brite and holy hell can you tell this author is an Anne Rice fan and I mean that in the best way.

Like- the new orleans setting? the androgynous/outright queer coded vampires? Hello, is this Miss Rice under a pen name?

Its not, but the similarities are quite striking as are the differences. for example- the vampires in this can have sex and reproduce.

Kink Prediction for 2023: with companies like Andrew Christian now selling cheap hoods, there will be some truly deranged discourse about pup play becoming too ‘mainstream’ to be counted as a ‘real’ kink