Mastodon is easily the most queer place I've ever called home on the Internet, and I think that has been good for me, even as (maybe especially as) a cishet dude.
Happy #Pride—I appreciate you all!
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Jun 3, 2026, 12:44 PMMe three! ❤️
@maxleibman ❤️🔥 :ablobmeltsoblove:
@maxleibman I don't know about queerest. But there is a solid presence here. Like you i'm cishet. Never bothered me. Only time I care about the style of someone's bedroom sports is when there's some potential i'll be involved in them somehow! 😎
@maxleibman +1
Really removes toxic masculinity, lets one touch grass and come out as a more stable being…
Jun 3, 2026, 8:06 AM@maxleibman Thanks for putting this better than I could!
Jun 3, 2026, 8:18 AM@maxleibman Hear Hear!
@maxleibman randomly, and related: with all the discourse (here in the UK and elsewhere) about "should we ban under-16s from social media" ... i keep thinking: if you mean twiXter, instagram, bluesky, threads, facebook, truthsocial, etc ... absolutely, no question. but i'd have only mild to no concern with letting my 14 year old kid go on the fedi (with some guard rails)
Especially us cis guys for sure, I needed it. I was never anti trans, but I didn't really know anything about the community.
They were here and a lot of fun, but weren't really my circle at first. I'm glad I stuck around.
My younger fry is trans. He and I would never have bonded like we did without all of the people here.
From Kazakhstan to Australia and all parts 'twixt, this place is amazing.
@maxleibman I find it’s ok but when it is the topics of real shit that LGBTQ people deal with on the daily that it’s pretty quiet.
And talking about that quiet is not encouraged.
@maxleibman please note that queer is also not a term all lgbtq people like in reference to them as it has a history of being used during gay bashing like the school game “smear the queer”
Jun 3, 2026, 11:09 AM@lifewithtrees @maxleibman oh no not one of those... We reclaimed that term with our blood and I don't allow some worrywarts to spoil that.
@TheOneDoc @maxleibman can you explain? I am unclear what you mean and don’t want to assume 🙏
@maxleibman My sentiments exactly.
@maxleibman What you said.
@maxleibman so relatable !
@maxleibman It seems pretty darn safe here. Happy pride. May this continue until all the ignorance about the community disappears (that's called a fantasy - it never disappears in spite of facts).
@maxleibman Welcome home!
@maxleibman I second that!
@LinHead @maxleibman See this blogger has written some thing new
https://vertextechjournal.blogspot.com/2026/06/NVIDIA%20and%20Microsoft%20%20Windows%20PCs.html
@maxleibman same!
Hear, fucking, hear. <3
Sometimes I ask myself where the hell have I landed? But as the saying goes....Stuffing! I'm staying!
@maxleibman I’m still looking for it. But that’s a Masto issue.
@maxleibman Same feeling here.
@maxleibman There isn't enough twink smut on the Fediverse though. At least I haven't found it yet. I'm bi, yet my smut list looks very much like your usual hetero smut with the occasional gay image every few days. A bit of enby smut, but also not very much.
Then again, the total amount of smut is abysmal, I used to be on Tumblr in the 2010s. Everybody was horny on main, lots of queer people posting nude selfies and amateur porn.
@maxleibman See this blogger has written some thing new
https://vertextechjournal.blogspot.com/2026/06/NVIDIA%20and%20Microsoft%20%20Windows%20PCs.html
@maxleibman we do not exist for your wellbeing. it's a bit objectifying.
@Steel_Virgin I’m sorry I posted that being around people who were different from me was a good thing.
@maxleibman you did not say it was a good thing. You said it was a good thing *for you*.
The fact that you don't seem to make a difference between the two just highlight how you think about the world and the people around you.
@Steel_Virgin Perhaps I should have just left it at "I'm glad you're here," then, but the way this is going I'm sure you've got an another epically bad-faith way of reading that, too.
@maxleibman the problem isn't about how you say it.
It's about how what you say shows how you think about the world, about queer people, about people that are different from you.
this "queerphilia" that you show, as the opposite of queerphobia, shares the exact same way of thinking. the only difference is an inverted output.
But this way of thinking isn't emancipatory. Because you expect a behaviour from us, and reward it when it satisfies you. But become contemptuous when we do not comply to it.
The very way you took my criticism is a good exemple of it. You could have asked why, you could have engaged a conversation or a debate (because it's not because some queer freak tells you smthg that it's true). Instead, you just used the weapon of the privileged to "fight back" : disdain.
That's sad.
@maxleibman as a side note : you don't seem to appreaciate me very well.
Did you lie saying that you appreciate us all ?
Or – as a straight dude – did you excomunicated me – a faggot – from the queer community ?
@Steel_Virgin I’m confident the rhetorical device of trying to put slurs in my mouth is not going to do you any favors here, but good luck I guess.
@maxleibman I'm not putting slurs in your mouth. Just showing you did not thought of what you said, of what it implies what it really mean socialy, politicaly.
once again, you taking those criticism as attacks just says it all. None of my messages have been offensive. They're just trying to show you that what you intented as a message of love is rooted in a way of thinking that's debatable.
It's ok not to be perfect. None of us are. That's why I'm not attacking you. But it's ok as long as you accept criticism and don't take it as an agression.
And. If you really want to apreciate us all. Maybe, when someone says your way of talking about them make them feel objectified, not taking it as an attack could be a great next step.
@Steel_Virgin I have a long history of not taking bad faith interpretations of my statements as valid criticism to be engaged with, regardless of the topic or the person who is supplying them. It’s not about whether you performed to my expectations; it’s about you coming into my mentions and attacking me for something that I neither said, meant, nor implied.
@Steel_Virgin You seem so fun! I'm going to go ahead and objectify you by blocking you.
@maxleibman
@Steel_Virgin @maxleibman "being good for me" has absolutely nothing to do with existing for his well being. Reading comprehension truly dunked in the last decades. lol
Jun 3, 2026, 4:55 PM@maxleibman
Ditto for me.
@maxleibman somebody's gonna need to explain to my straight a&& what "cishet" means
@Selvari21106 “cis” = not trans, “het” short for “heterosexual.”
@maxleibman oh, so what I am then. Thanks
@maxleibman You're appreciated too Max; it's good to have you in my timeline, pride month or not.
@maxleibman same. well said.
I second this!