@maxleibman you did not say it was a good thing. You said it was a good thing *for you*.
The fact that you don't seem to make a difference between the two just highlight how you think about the world and the people around you.
@Steel_Virgin Perhaps I should have just left it at "I'm glad you're here," then, but the way this is going I'm sure you've got an another epically bad-faith way of reading that, too.
@maxleibman the problem isn't about how you say it.
It's about how what you say shows how you think about the world, about queer people, about people that are different from you.
this "queerphilia" that you show, as the opposite of queerphobia, shares the exact same way of thinking. the only difference is an inverted output.
But this way of thinking isn't emancipatory. Because you expect a behaviour from us, and reward it when it satisfies you. But become contemptuous when we do not comply to it.
The very way you took my criticism is a good exemple of it. You could have asked why, you could have engaged a conversation or a debate (because it's not because some queer freak tells you smthg that it's true). Instead, you just used the weapon of the privileged to "fight back" : disdain.
That's sad.
@maxleibman as a side note : you don't seem to appreaciate me very well.
Did you lie saying that you appreciate us all ?
Or – as a straight dude – did you excomunicated me – a faggot – from the queer community ?
@Steel_Virgin I’m confident the rhetorical device of trying to put slurs in my mouth is not going to do you any favors here, but good luck I guess.
@maxleibman I'm not putting slurs in your mouth. Just showing you did not thought of what you said, of what it implies what it really mean socialy, politicaly.
once again, you taking those criticism as attacks just says it all. None of my messages have been offensive. They're just trying to show you that what you intented as a message of love is rooted in a way of thinking that's debatable.
It's ok not to be perfect. None of us are. That's why I'm not attacking you. But it's ok as long as you accept criticism and don't take it as an agression.
And. If you really want to apreciate us all. Maybe, when someone says your way of talking about them make them feel objectified, not taking it as an attack could be a great next step.
@Steel_Virgin I have a long history of not taking bad faith interpretations of my statements as valid criticism to be engaged with, regardless of the topic or the person who is supplying them. It’s not about whether you performed to my expectations; it’s about you coming into my mentions and attacking me for something that I neither said, meant, nor implied.