@twifkak @crystalmoon

there is a common formulary:

when they give you a shove, you shove back, hard. then they don't shove anymore

while if you retreat, they take that as invite to pursue and do worse

the truth of course is that the proper approach is entirely situational and depends mightily on nuance of context

and also of course, the end result of both approaches is that you achieve distance

so "seek distance" still works as a summary, it's just a matter of the devil in the details: how