@jlperuyero My dude, I am literally posting the encyclopedia entry that I wrote on this topic -- each of those headings is expanded. And yet, you feel the need to correct what I am saying? I'd be astonished at the hubris but then I remember this is Mansplainodon, so yeah.
@emilymbender
I've been following you for some time, and that should be a hint on my according with your work.
But if you take a minimal comment, intending only agreement with your message, as mansplaining, maybe you'll find useful adding some "NO INTERACTING PLEASE" banner to your account.
So sad. So many barriers, trenches, walls and barbed wires set up between real people. No wonder more and more are turning towards AI.
@jlperuyero I have no way of knowing how long anyone has been following me so can't take that as a hint, no.
I am not putting up any barriers. I am asking for you to NOT contribute to the absolute chorus of mansplaining that is mastodon.
If your intent is agreement, then acknowledge what I said rather than correcting!
@emilymbender
Adding is not correcting. Nothing that you have said sounds wrong to me. Reinforcing should be interpreted as agreement, at least in my environment. And consider that,
- english is not my mother tongue
- I've never travelled to an english speaking country
- I have to struggle with a spanish autocorrect to write this 😃
Greetings from the not-so-privileged side of the world.
Adding reads as correcting: you are saying I didn't say enough/didn't say the right thing (and saying that without reading what I posted).
I don't think the issue here is L1/L2 so much as male privilege.
You are replying to an expert on the topic and not acknowledging that expertise.
@emilymbender
(bows silently)
@jlperuyero @emilymbender
Oh come on! Stop agreeing with her!
@emilymbender @jlperuyero
Tone is hard to pick up sometimes, and I don't want to mansplain mansplaining... but I'd just like to echo what these blokes said here:
https://youtu.be/im1amtaN7MM?si=CdYb3C0w3eTc604S
@jlperuyero stop being a reply guy. If you don't want to be sad about people being prickly and asking you to interact differently, just apologise and stop. What after your first toot and maybe the clarification was really necessary? Certainly not telling her to change her profile. Just take a step back.
@emilymbender @jlperuyero Purely for informational reasons, I already have bro tagged in my notes as "yet another 'akshually' guy." Apparently it's a behavior pattern, and I'm sorry as an authoritative woman in a high-visibility field you have to deal with this shit relentlessly.
At least now I have an excuse to block him.
Jul 8, 2026, 6:56 PM@emilymbender @jlperuyero being a woman and having opinions about tech is an incredible experience. some random ass dude will literally come out of nowhere to "uhm, actually" you on everything from the mildest take to YOUR FUCKING ACADEMIC PAPER on the topic. every time.
@purplerabbit @emilymbender @jlperuyero crazy I was reading someone else's post and had the idea for a bot https://mastodon.social/@fullywoolly/116887851682831470
I think it'd be a fun idea. Basically tell people they are mansplaining and keep a count. Have a leaderboard. If you don't feel like clicking the link.