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  • Cycy@fedicy.us.to
    Jul 2, 2026, 10:48 PM
    It also helps to think of it from a security perspective. "Small talk" is small, because it's used to negotiate stronger security, like TLS. Ideally it helps you feel out whether someone is willing to talk, and sympathetic to your more serious stuff. Then you can plan the revolution or whatever.

    Sending meaningful information over TLS before the secure negotiation is madness, so similarly small talk doesn't have much meaning to it, but is still important.
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  • Cycy@fedicy.us.to
    Jul 2, 2026, 10:53 PM
    i.e. "How are you with spiders?" - still dangerous might set someone off who's terrified of spiders
    "Do you have any fears?" - asking for a security breach
    "Do you like any creepie crawlies?" - still asking for info w/out security
    "I sure do like spiders." - better, announcing capabilities w/out requesting info
    "Saw the weirdest thing the other day haha" - good, doesn't give or request info, further negotiation possible

    #spiders
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  • Murdoc Addams 🧛🏻:ri: 🇨🇦murdoc@autistics.life
    Jul 2, 2026, 11:00 PM

    @cy
    That's a good point, and I would agree that sharing *sensitive* information before establishing a secure link is not advisable (e.g. your bank information), but I think what different systems use to establish that differs. Like someone talking about the weather and whatnot doesn't really tell me what they think is Interesting or important, so it's harder to establish a motivational base. But I think that it's also about what kind of relationship you're trying to establish, so the different protocols are adapted to that, rather than being strictly one is better than the other.

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  • Cycy@fedicy.us.to
    Jul 2, 2026, 10:44 PM
    "Hey, how you been?" - ping
    "Fine." - pong
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