I'm thinking a little about how interpersonal fighting and bickering is a skill, and an important one at that. The "avoid fighting with others" idea - an extremely white idea, btw, in my exp - has created an entire generation of white people that literally can't argue without it going south really quick.

My first exposure to my Black and Puerto Rican friends' families - I would stay with them sometimes during college breaks - were lifechanging in part because of how they fought.