"Belonging, having something to do that matters, feeling useful, being understood and having people who are interested in you are not simply rewards for becoming well. They are often part of how we become well."
https://www.bps.org.uk/psychologist/you-are-not-fragile-you-are-outnumbered
A lot of reasons I became a psychologist in here. And a lot of reasons deficit thinking about human minds and abilities is something I find so damaging and unacceptable.
@grimalkina thanks for sharing this, what a wonderful letter
Oct 14, 2026, 6:13 PM@grimalkina That lede quote tho
I love Fonagy.
"You deserve to be noticed, understood and supported, not because you have proved that you are ill enough, or because you have found the right diagnosis, but because what happens to you matters."
@grimalkina This brought tears to my eyes.
"I have spent much of my life trying to understand how we might make that kind of help less dependent on good fortune." What a life's work; how good that is.
@brainwane this is the stuff I try to remind myself to think about every time I feel mocked for my degree, or disrespected because of centering psychological experience, or subject to all the stereotypes that I couldn't be smart or technical. For all the flaws and humanness of the field psychology is a place where we get to spend our careers trying to work on stuff like this.
@grimalkina [please imagine me standing at attention and saluting]
@grimalkina I need to get this in front of every one of my students.