Jun 7, 2026, 5:58 AMI'm in a discord server where there was a very popular member who left on bad terms. They've got a better resolution system than most, where it happens publicly so people can't use silence as shield. The problem I had with it is how quickly the entire structure collapses into court. & I can't say anything to them about it, because the un-collapsed structure is "not court".
Anyways, I read through as much as I could before I collapsed into my mirroring wounds (which wasn't much). There was a grief thread for people to process. I decided to do a voice note so I could process things, & since it was unfiltered & I hadn't read much, I said a lot of incorrect statements. I also expressed support for the ex-member (& alleged grifter).
Immediately, the space collapsed into court, & I was soon reprimanded for the length of the voice note. I reply "I can delete it" to which they responded "no", & then I started getting dog-piled about the factual inaccuracies. I get that it's a sensitive space & a sensitive topic, but it was strange how I couldn't delete the voice note & had my own sensitivities denied when I'd thought it was a space to process & vent.
I don't know what to do here. I've paused the discord app 'cause I was feeling sick from what felt like a humiliation ritual on what could've just been an "I take back my words". But also the group seems to have been doing a better job then most at keeping the space safe & honest, so I've got doubts on my end. Like am I oversimplifying to evade some deeper transgression that I'm avoiding? IDK what's ok to publicly process this since they use everything in that court, & I'm sure I'll be called in there soon.
