also to pre-empt inevitable comments: genuinely not interested in anyone's 2 cents on dating struggles unless you're also a single mid-life sapphic!!!!!!! Spare me from the "on the last chopper out of Nam" vibes that always come out from people who gleefully tell you how glad they are not to be dating right now. like okay????
@TeamMidwest in this position in small town upstate NY. I decided to pay for a few months of Her. It has not gone great. So much spam.
@starsplatter I’ve made a couple of absolutely amazing friends off Her (as in one of us made it clear from the jump that we were only feeling a friends vibe but we have since become actual friends!) and the last woman I dated for several weeks was also from Her. Otherwise Hinge has had the most success for me. It’s wild how geographically variable the apps are!