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  • Ms. Que BanhPhoenixSerenity@beige.party
    Jul 21, 2026, 6:56 PM

    #MedicalFundraiser - help needed for my Mom.

    Been busy juggling work/client appointments, Mom's medical appointments, community volunteering tasks & maintaining our gardens. Mom's arthritis has been bad the past week so she's been out of commission. Mom's getting more blood work done tomorrow morning; liver enzymes test. August 4th, we meet with her liver specialist again to go over recent abdominal MRI/discuss her liver disease & possible treatments.
    The ophthalmologist office just called about her first cataract surgery. We agreed to use their test evaluation advanced lenses for reduced cost of $600. The hospital fees are covered by Pharmacare but the advanced lens costs aren't. BC Pharmacare only covers basic cataract lenses & Mom needs advanced ones. She will need her 2nd eye done, 3-4 weeks after getting the first - it is same cost of $600.
    Dr. Pedago will be doing Mom's cataract surgeries. He's diligent with masking up.

    I need some help with public donations to cover the costs of her cataract lenses. I'm taking a week off work, after each of her eye surgeries, to ensure she's safe/recovers well.

    If you're able to assist with a donation to help us pay for Mom's cataract lenses, please use my PayPal link in bio or QR code or if you're in Canada, please etransfer donation instead :
    quebanhincedar@gmail.com

    Total donations needed by August 10th: $600.
    Total donations needed by August 31st, an additional $600. $1200 to cover both lenses.

    July 29, 9:20am: Total donations = $690.15 received.

    Please boost to help us, if you're unable to donate any funds.

    #medical #cataracts #fundraiser #EyeSurgery #mutualaid

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  • Ms. Que BanhPhoenixSerenity@beige.party
    Jul 21, 2026, 7:16 PM

    Asher has been an excellent cat nurse/cheer up companion to Mom. He's taking a brief break here, from clinging/following her around. A cat who is diligent about providing caring comfort to his human family member, currently the most in need of extra purr pal therapy❤️

    My grey and white tuxedo cat with large green eyes lies on his side, in our hallway, looking at the camera.
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  • Ms. Que BanhPhoenixSerenity@beige.party
    Jul 21, 2026, 8:10 PM

    I'm also drained from organizing 2 funerals in July for now deceased clients. I have no spoons left for much other stuff than family, work & I'm not taking on any extra community work at this time. I can't handle anything extra for a bit.

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  • Ms. Que BanhPhoenixSerenity@beige.party
    Jul 21, 2026, 9:01 PM

    I still haven't received the email requested with full financial breakdown info. They just informed me via phone & I reminded them that the email hasn't been sent to to me yet.
    You can verify the quoted uncovered costs from Dr. Pedago office, if needed: 250-590-5660

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  • Ms. Que BanhPhoenixSerenity@beige.party
    Jul 21, 2026, 9:32 PM

    I've just arranged some free foods(stuff I can't grow) to be picked up/dropped to help our family out after each of Mom's cataract surgeries because I'll be off work for 2 weeks. We will have less household funds coming in, through August. I'm trying to plan ahead so our family will be OK/have enough foods to eat while Mom's recovering & I'm off work. My Uncle gave us frozen fish & it's enough to last us into September.

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  • Ms. Que BanhPhoenixSerenity@beige.party
    Jul 21, 2026, 11:12 PM

    Thank you to the first 3 people who have donated funds to help me pay for Mom's advanced cataract lenses. I'm currently at $181.76 of the $1200 total needed to pay for both of the lenses that Mom needs for her cataracts surgeries in August.

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  • Ms. Que BanhPhoenixSerenity@beige.party
    Jul 25, 2026, 6:23 PM

    Thank you to kind folks who have donated towards my Mom's medical fundraiser so far 🙏💗

    July 25, 11:00 am: Total donations = $544.15 received towards the first goal of $600 by first cataract surgery date on August 10th.
    I have until August 31st to raise the additional $600 for her 2nd surgery.

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  • Ms. Que BanhPhoenixSerenity@beige.party
    Jul 26, 2026, 7:13 PM

    Thank you to kind folks who have donated towards my Mom's medical fundraiser so far 🙏💗

    I received one small etransfer donation today.
    July 26, 12:00 pm: Total donations = $564.15 received towards the first goal of $600 by first cataract surgery date on August 10th.
    I have until August 31st to raise the additional $600 for her 2nd surgery.

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  • Ms. Que BanhPhoenixSerenity@beige.party
    Jul 27, 2026, 4:17 PM

    Thank you to the folks who have donated towards my Mom's medical fundraiser🙏💗
    I've been reassuring her that people online are helping out & to not let costs stress her out because we will raise what's needed for her surgeries. I reminded her that some Aunts & Uncles are helping us pay household bills in August & early September; they’re giving us more fish & food preserves too. I'm trying to keep Mom's blood pressure lower to manage her diabetes & liver disease better. I'm taking her to get a treatment shot for her arthritis, at her GP, after I finish my tea & croissant.

    Total donations needed by August 10th: $600.
    Total donations needed by August 31st, an additional $600. $1200 to cover both lenses.

    July 27, 8:45am: Total donations = $584.15 received.

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  • Ms. Que BanhPhoenixSerenity@beige.party
    Jul 28, 2026, 2:41 AM

    Dr. Pedago office admin finally emailed me. I'm fucking stressed out, again. I can't type much more now because I'm feeling really upset at very delayed & important medical office communications. Here's some info in photos - their email & surgery info & my response to it.
    More costs involved that I was never informed about prior. I can't afford to pay any extra stuff. Fuck!

    Cataract surgery instructions from Victor D. Pegado MD, listing patient name, date of surgery August 10, 2026, eye to be operated on the left, arrival time at Royal Jubilee Hospital, and follow-up appointments. Also details eye drop instructions before, morning of, and after surgery, including Vigamox, Acuvail, and Pred Forte.
    Email confirming cataract surgery for the left eye on August 10, 2026, with details on arrival time, post-operative follow-ups, prescription faxing, clinic instructions, and a premium lens fee.
    Message from me to ophthalmologist office admin inquiring about prescription coverage for my Mom's surgery by Pharmacare and the costs of lenses for which they are fundraising, with a link to a fundraising page.
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  • Ms. Que BanhPhoenixSerenity@beige.party
    Jul 28, 2026, 3:50 PM

    The office just called me & has relieved my stress over possible extra expenses. I don't need to panic.

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  • Ms. Que BanhPhoenixSerenity@beige.party
    Jul 29, 2026, 4:26 PM

    Thanks for the donations towards Mom's medical fundraiser 🙏💗

    July 29, 9:20am: Total donations = $690.15 received 🙌

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  • Ms. Que BanhPhoenixSerenity@beige.party
    Aug 3, 2026, 4:38 PM

    Thanks to the Fedi-community for donations towards Mom's medical fundraiser 🙏💗

    August 3rd, 9:25am: Total donations = $730.40 received 🙌

    We check Mom in for her first cataract surgery next week, August 10 at 8:40am, Jubilee Hospital. Surgery time is slated for 10:40am. I'll update from the hospital during & after.
    Her second surgery date will be booked a week after her first; during the post-op follow up appointment.

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  • Ms. Que BanhPhoenixSerenity@beige.party
    Jul 21, 2026, 11:21 PM

    @kimlockhartga Mom's dipped to below 100 lbs in past week. I had her specialist appointment moved up from later in August because her ongoing weight loss is a huge concern for our whole family. I need to find out what type of liver disease is damaging her health as soon as possible. I know cataracts surgeries will go well. It's her liver disease that I need more clarification on & it's likely what's causing her to not be able to regain weight.

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  • Ms. Que BanhPhoenixSerenity@beige.party
    Jul 22, 2026, 2:56 PM

    @kimlockhartga Yes, not knowing much about her liver disease & being unable to help her gain weight is why I'm more stressed out.
    Trying to raise enough funds for her advanced cataract lenses is stressful too but not as much as my concerns over her liver disease. I have 19 days to raise the first $600 that Mom needs to get first surgery. I'm at $185.95 so far 🤞🏻

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  • Ms. Que BanhPhoenixSerenity@beige.party
    Jul 28, 2026, 4:04 PM

    @blueemu Dr. Pedago was one of the two ophthalmologists who I have raved about earlier this year. Him & Dr. Zhou have both treated my Mom well & both mask up at her appointments. Dr. Zhou was the one who referred us to Dr. Pedago for Mom's cataracts. Dr. Zhou does her diabetic eye injection treatments.

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