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  • Nicole J. LeBoeuf (she/her)NicoleJLeBoeuf@wandering.shop
    Jul 4, 2026, 10:48 PM

    On the one hand, the guy I actually hooked up with for life is still alive and kicking, and may we both do so for another 50 years and more.

    On the other, if I'd wound up marrying this dude - he was most definitely the marrying type and considered finding The One to be the reward God owed him for being a good Catholic, so that was a hard no for me, plus the whole "I'm older so I know better" he pulled on me in pretty much every disagreement - who's to say he wouldn't still be alive? Who knows?

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  • Nicole J. LeBoeuf (she/her)NicoleJLeBoeuf@wandering.shop
    Jul 4, 2026, 10:53 PM

    (This is not me regretting a damn thing - this is me just mulling over Funny Old Thing, Life.)

    I don't think he ever did marry. The obituary page is full of people talking about what a good Follower of JESUS he was, and what good work he did for charity and what a kind friend he was.

    I remember him showing me his music and poetry and expecting unadulterated praise for such. I remember him denigrating my own fiction and poetry. I remember him constantly bugging me to cut my hair (I didn't).

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  • Nicole J. LeBoeuf (she/her)NicoleJLeBoeuf@wandering.shop
    Jul 4, 2026, 10:56 PM

    I am 100% better off for having dumped him as soon as I did.

    I learned a lot from him about what to avoid in a potential life partner.

    I hope he found happiness between then and now, in his own way and on his own efforts. He apparently continued with the poetry and the music, and while his works weren't to my tastes, I trust he found fulfillment in them.

    Looking at his obituary page, I see that many, many people are remembering him lovingly. I can be happy for that.

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