Are we doing pronouns wrong?
Telling someone your preferred pronouns and having that respected can be validating, but it also gives away a little power. It's giving the gender Nazis an easy way to be mean.
What about modifying the first person pronoun? As a nonbinary person I am quite happy "I" is not gendered, but if you want to assert your gender, maybe using "Im/Ir/Ix" (or whatever) might be more useful. Instead of a once-and-done pronoun intro, you use the first person pronoun almost every other sentence. You are not depending on other people to adopt language.
Secondly, in addition to wildly gendering "I", why not normalize they/them for everyone. This takes away the linguistic platform for misgendering microagressions.
For me, gender has always been unwelcome and problematic. My apologies if I have not captured the nuances of pronoun usage from other perspectives. It is certainly not my intention to cause offence or invalidate any identity.
