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  • TattieTattie@eldritch.cafe
    Oct 15, 2026, 10:41 AM

    Finally, it is a sad but real phenomenon that misogynists often hide behind [pretended or real] neurodivergence as a smokescreen for their bad behaviour. This is fucking shitty, and impacts both women and neurodivergent folks— and neurodivergent women doubly so.

    This is why an argument of "my behaviour looks like sexism but it's actually neurodivergence" is increasingly regarded, rightly, as a red flag by women. I highly recommend putting as much distance as you can between yourself and this crowd— they will try to drag you down with them.
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  • TattieTattie@eldritch.cafe
    Oct 15, 2026, 11:08 AM

    As an autistic woman I love an infodump, both as speaker and listener. There's something so "in the zone" about it, just letting the facts tumble out one after another.

    Have I ever seen infodumping mislabeled as mansplaining? Honestly, no. I have seen accusations of mansplaining deployed disingenuously to win an internet argument, but that's its own thing, and pretty transparently bogus.

    Infodumping, done right, is a mutually respectful activity, which makes it fundamentally different to mansplaining.
    Fin/

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  • Jules she/herafewbugs@social.coop
    Oct 15, 2026, 10:45 AM

    @Tattie the number of men I've encountered who respond to being told they said something shitty with "I'm autistic". So am I, so I recognise that makes it more likely I'll read the situation wrong and say the wrong thing and potentially hurt or upset someone and work very hard to avoid doing that, rather than using it as an excuse.

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  • Kat SKatS@chaosfem.tw
    Oct 15, 2026, 10:56 AM

    @afewbugs So many times: "I'm autistic and therefore I can't be expected to-"
    Hold it right there, bucko. So are many of us here, and if my autistic friends and I can put in the work, so can you.
    @Tattie

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  • Mike hmikehaber@social.coop
    Oct 15, 2026, 1:06 PM

    @KatS @afewbugs @Tattie yeah, most neurodivergent people know about and perform masking behaviour when necessary.

    I mask to not be a dick, like I mask to fit in . I expect them to mask to not be a dick, if their neurodivergence requires it.

    For me, it’s mainly just shutting the fuck up.

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