@ForgottenHero Speaking from the perspective of a bullying target, rather than a woman, which seems similar to me in many situations:
a bullying target often doesn't want somebody else to decide when and how to fight their fights. They might instead want the reassurance, that they can pick the fight that concerns them when they feel it is the right moment, and the others have _their_ back, instead of the bully's.

Hope that's not too far off @Natasha_Jay