I VEHEMENTLY reject the idea that it would ever be legitimate to exclude trans women from a woman's group or women's bathroom or whatever because of someone's trauma around men.
That sort of rhetoric has been weaponized against minorities for years to justify their exclusion. "I'm afraid of lesbians". "I'm afraid of Black people". "I'm afraid of Muslims." "I'm afraid of Jewish people." "I'm afraid of lower class people". Etc.
I'm beyond done with being accommodating of white women tears to drive trans women away because of "fears of men". Trauma is real, and we should be aware of it, and accommodate it where possible , but wielding your trauma to exclude vulnerable minorities from public spaces is some hot garbage.