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  • Whitepaws &?🏳️‍🌈🇳🇱ruawhitepaw@chitter.xyz
    Jul 6, 2026, 3:51 PM

    A followup to this post:
    chitter.xyz/@ruawhitepaw/11653

    My friend is a Portuguese citizen whose only current residency is with her "family". She is a victim of domestic abuse and long-term sexual exploitation at the hands of said family. She is heavily traumatised, self-harmy and at times suicidal. She is also trans, intersex, autistic, disabled.

    She has now been staying with me in the Netherlands for almost three weeks. We still haven't really been able to find a solution. She doesn't seem to be eligible for refugee status here, but we also don't know where in Portugal she would be safe. I do not feel ok sending her back without some kind of guarantee of appropriate shelter.

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  • Whitepaws &?🏳️‍🌈🇳🇱ruawhitepaw@chitter.xyz
    Jul 6, 2026, 3:52 PM

    Because of her identity and issues, she cannot simply be put in any shelter, she needs specialised care. She was housed in a government-sponsored shelter before, which housed her with *men* and she was attacked by one of them. She refuses to go back to those shelters. She also cannot go back to her "family". She is effectively homeless.

    I am providing the only shelter and monetary support that she has right now. But I am on a disability budget myself, also struggling to stay afloat both financially and mentally, and can't keep doing this. It's urgent that she can go somewhere as soon as possible to relieve my own limited means/spoons.

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  • Whitepaws &?🏳️‍🌈🇳🇱ruawhitepaw@chitter.xyz
    Jul 6, 2026, 5:15 PM

    We have now contacted ILGA and Opus Diversidade in Portugal. Would still be very thankful for any other leads or offers for help.

    I would especially appreciate contacts in the Portuguese queer/activist communities, if you happen to be part of that or know someone who is.

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  • Whitepaws &?🏳️‍🌈🇳🇱ruawhitepaw@chitter.xyz
    Jul 14, 2026, 9:33 AM

    @fledertier @trans_rescue The problem we keep running into is that she is an EU citizen with no connection to the Netherlands. So everything here just goes "you are not our concern" and "you have no rights here".

    She lived in Antwerp for some time and still has residency there, so that is the next avenue we're pursuing. We've contacted Payoke, a local help organisation, and are waiting for their response.

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  • Luna Dragofelis ΘΔ🏳️‍⚧️🐱LunaDragofelis@void.lgbt
    Jul 6, 2026, 6:00 PM
    @ruawhitepaw both Portugal and the Netherlands are EU countries, so immigration status probably isn't a big problem. It seems like the best solution would be some kind of permanent housing, like a rented apartment, and the obstacle to that is probably mainly money. Am I right with these assumptions?
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