Oct 23, 2026, 3:23 PMAdvice for female-presenting persons: if a male doctor asks if you've been under stress lately: SAY NO. Tell him life is great. Don't budge. Make the fucker actually figure out what's wrong.
I don't know a single woman who hasn't gotten the stress brush-off, only to get a real diagnosis later.
It's bullshit. Sometimes lying to your doctor is the right thing to do.
@frykitty I transitioned. My first doctor who has only known me post transition asked me once if I had anxiety. I said yes.
Ever since that went into my file, that is the root cause of everything I go to the doctor for. I could show up with covid, I'm sure they'd say it's hormones and anxiety.
@frykitty I think I got trained into this by just being a woman who is not skinny. Most of the time, our medical concerns are addressed as far as " you need to lose weight" so there are things that I just wont interface with a doctor about bc it will just go nowhere
I quit letting my doc weigh me on my yearly check-up.
This last time around:
Nurse: "Let's get your weight."
Me: "No, thanks."
Nurse, clearly at a loss. "Um. Well. Okay, what was your weight the last time you were weighted."
Me: 😡 Caught me off-guard enough that I didn't have the presence of mind to say, "What part of 'no' was unclear?" I did say, "That's 'no' as in, if you have my weight, they'll put BMI on my chart, & BMI is complete BS, so: no."