you don't owe anyone anything, except to make your website screen reader accessible and usable without javascript, and your social media profile safe for minors even if you mark your profile as 18+, and to content warning any post that contains objectionable content including but not limited to passing mentions of food, photos that make eye contact with the viewer, and the word "you", which some fedi users who VEHEMENTLY reject being referred to as human are offended by.

none of that is written down anywhere, by the way. you're just supposed to know it and honestly it's kind of problematic that you didn't.

mostly what "we don't owe you anything" means is that giving people the benefit of the doubt is for suckers and when you break a social contract you didn't know was there (or even piss someone off without breaking a social contract) you don't get told what you did wrong, and by asking, you're breaking a social contract.