I think I figured out what bothers me about Facebook (aside from the obvious evil company stuff). People don't really engage with anything I post. Friends, family, whatever. Everyone is a sort of content fountain but beyond the surface level there is no engagement. To be sure, I didn't engage with other people's things much either beyond a like (usually). It's this weird sort of isolation but also being surrounded by people.
Part of this became obvious when I said I was leaving and put links to my fediverse and my blog and someone did engage, but only to say they'd be sad about not seeing my airplane build progress. Two things about that: I wasn't aware they even looked at it and also I literally gave them the links to where they could continue to see that exact same stuff. It's weird to me that they'd pretend I don't exist anymore if I wasn't spooning information directly into their face when they expressed at least some interest in it. A laziness, perhaps. A conditioning?
Sometimes I see people in person and they'll ask me about what I'm up to. I'll tell them but somewhere in the conversation I'll mention I have pictures and more details on my blog if they're interested but they aren't. Feels like an effort thing, maybe mixed with being polite by asking me things. Maybe I should just talk about the weather instead
So, in high contrast to that there are people here that are amazing and thoughtful. I basically redid my whole social circle based on connections I met here and it's been a lot more rewarding. Similarly, joining an EAA chapter has been such a great time for me. Alignment of interests and alignment of personalities goes a long way for more meaningful interactions. Am I sad I cut away from a bunch of people I knew? I'm not sure. The transition was hard but where I ended up is better. This feels more intentional rather than an accident of geography and time.
Anywho, I appreciate y'all. I plan on keeping on being me and being here. Airplanes and nerd stuff, yay