@Drude @chisop you want to defend someone you see as vulnerable, and that is kind of you. But how you do things matters. Part of being ready to share your story publicly is being ready to deal with the public about it: to say no to people, to answer questions when you want to do that, to manage your own experience with the community you are sharing with. And people will ask intrusive questions! That's what they do! Some folks actually want to answer those sorts of questions. Some do not.