im so pissed when babes will litteraly associate queer with "women" (afab...). like queers means lesbian and like some trans masc plus maybe sometimes a bunch of bi/straight girls who never queered anything their life but their vibe. and when you say this event, film, book is queer it's like omg i didn't expect this to be about the radical trans girls let alone the scary gay guys. well associating queerness with vagina is kinda insane to me. which is of course linked to this cis-white neoliberal queer trend of "i'm queer so therefore everything queer is about me". sorry to break it down to you but you are such a little node in the big history of gender and sex non-normativity so be humble and make alliances with other identities and experiences than yours!