@ArcMother @blueemu @aleen @jargoggles And, truly, you may think you're landing body blows "in enemy territory," but I'm not so sure.
Like the fat tradwife who is deep in an alternate reality, but might find the courage to question stuff when hubby throws out her fat gay son. Does it help or hurt if she saw a lady with a pride flag call her fat and tell her to get back in the kitchen?
A lot of people across the aisle can find their way out. It helps if we represent our values.