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  • Jun 2, 2025, 12:59 AM

    Hot tip: if you see a woman doing something, don't walk up and order her to do it for you.

    This used to happen constantly when a woman staff member was doing the ironing at the clothing stores where I used to work. A random man would stride up and say "you can do my shirts next, thanks!", this would happen at least once per hour. I had forgotten about this until I got out my crochet while sitting alone* in public.

    *alone is key. I sit doing crochet with other people all the time and strange men never approach to make orders for socks. But as soon as I sat alone today: men. Old white men. Everywhere.

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  • Jun 2, 2025, 1:01 AM

    I'm starting to understand why old ladies who sit on porches traditionally keep a pea shooter beside the rocking chair.

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  • Jun 2, 2025, 1:05 AM

    After ordering socks he immediately started on how he was raised in a better time before washing machines and dishwashers and hot running water and it was a much better way to live and the women were better then.

    I think I need to get more visibly queer so old white people stop dumping this particular trauma on me.

    He kept saying "it's a better way to live!". I didn't inform him that he's allowed to not own a dishwasher. I've never been able to afford one, there's no law that you have to have them.

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  • Jun 2, 2025, 8:14 AM

    @coolandnormal You know the French word for joke, "une plaisanterie"? In the 1990s those who were in their 20s-30s started using irony as a cruel weapon, and then claiming they were "just joking" (to my mind, the start of fascism).

    Before this there was a gentle kind of quip people used when just trying to break the ice and be pleasant.

    It was in fact standard practice - if you saw someone out washing their car, for ex, to say "You can take mine next" - which was an expression of solidarity.

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