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  • Johanna, CanCon varietyjohannab@cosocial.ca
    Oct 30, 2026, 9:28 PM

    RE: ioc.exchange/@peterrenshaw/117

    Sir Patrick Stewart’s anti-DV activism is one of his most important public roles, IMHO, and losing that is its own grief for this world. He was not just paying lip service, nor was he angrily tearing down other men for not being aligned enough with a “right” position. He spoke publicly and painfully from a place of being a DV survivor of a father’s mishandled trauma, because that is what HE was, just as much as his mother.

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  • Johanna, CanCon varietyjohannab@cosocial.ca
    Oct 30, 2026, 9:37 PM

    He also owned his own flaws and faults and was public about his own growth, even to late in his life. He admitted his responsibilities and regrets in how two marriages ended and didn’t ever seem to blame his partners. He did clearly get away with being a rich old guy who scored a 3rd wife half his age, OTOH he seemed to absolutely adore her and came across as her biggest fan, never like he thought he was entitled to trophy or arm candy.

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  • Johanna, CanCon varietyjohannab@cosocial.ca
    Oct 30, 2026, 9:39 PM

    He didn’t just play characters who were upstanding models of masculinity for younger men (hm. And women!) taken under his wing. He really seemed to BE that.

    Sadly still so few elders and uncles and fathers are yet able to live that role. Really adds to the sense of loss.

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  • Clayton Slaughterschmubba@ioc.exchange
    Nov 3, 2026, 9:42 PM

    @johannab @peterrenshaw
    A nuance that I didn’t expect is he is just as much advocating for eliminating a source of domestic violence-his father’s untreated PTSD. We have to help eliminate the damage from every angle. He said there is absolutely no reason to strike a partner, period. So he didn’t excuse his father’s actions. He worked to prevent the cause of it in others.

    Imagine if we had the will to look at protection and prevention in such a comprehensive way in our society. We could work what seems like miracles.

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  • Clayton Slaughterschmubba@ioc.exchange
    Nov 3, 2026, 10:21 PM

    @peterrenshaw interesting
    This is something I haven’t seen.
    I don’t know what “traditional owners” means in the context of my post. Thanks for the link.

    When I looked at it - it’s about a deeper solution for those who suffer from PTSD, one that transcends individual treatment.
    It’s more of a societal shift.

    I only read the summary be I see now why it is one target and can enhance my understanding.

    Thanks.

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  • Johanna, CanCon varietyjohannab@cosocial.ca
    Nov 4, 2026, 3:39 AM

    @schmubba @peterrenshaw

    yes. The compassion in his position, and the way he could demonstrate forgiveness - a personal state for the person offering it, not an absolution of the offender - was remarkable.

    It's not something anyone can demand of any survivor. One's own trauma is the heaviest weight, and nobody can or should offload that for you, you can only release it yourself and it is hard work to do, without perpetuating it. Sir Patrick had remarkable capacity for more than acting.

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