I have so had it with the anti-masculinity shit that is running rampant in some oh-so-inclusive queer communities. It's not cute, folks! Cut it out. You're pretty much only hurting trans men with your toxicity. But ofc that doesn't matter because you're so used to talking over us and erasing us anyway. And then we disappear from our shared spaces, and you think you've solved some problem rather than what you've actually done which is bully trans men out of the spaces we should be safe in.

I'm tired. I'm running out of safe spaces. I'm disappointed that people from my own community are often the worst offenders. It's so laughable that I've gotten the most support and gender affirmation from cishet men, bisexual men, and ofc other trans men. Which I realise is sheer luck; what are the fucking odds that cishet men of all people are going to be the supportive ones? But it mirrors my experience as a bisexual presumed-cis presumed-woman when cishet men non-creepily had my back while I got tons of biphobia from lesbians. 😩 I know that statistically lesbians are the most supportive of bisexuals and trans people, but unfortunately my life so far has very often told me a different story. It hurts to now see trans lesbians/sapphics act similarly with regard to trans men.

I do want to emphasise that I'm incredibly grateful for the small number of transfems and even smaller number of cis lesbians who have never been anything but kind and supportive to me and other transmascs 🥹 I know you also aren't heard when you speak up for us, but that you do so anyway matters to me. You give me hope when the rest of our community makes me despair. 🩵

Disclaimer: I'm not saying "men are trash" is an untrue statement. I'm not saying all lesbians are terrible. I'm not even saying no trans men are terrible because I've seen some horridly toxic masculinity from trans men that sent me into a spiral of shocked disbelief. I'm merely sharing about my personal experiences, that were unfortunately not great. Many things can be true at the same time. The real issue for me is the absolute lack of true intersectionality and inclusion in queer leftist spaces. We should be pulling on the same fucking side of the rope.