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  • Nov 10, 2026, 5:57 PM

    @CharlotteEowyn and cis people still dominate our nonprofits, our healthcare, and services. This is why I’m so determined to become an LCSW, so I can have independence from the cis and have some agency over the means of production for mental healthcare and community care as a trans person.

    It’s not that I automatically distrust all cis people, but if they are in a position of power above or around me…they have to do A LOT to earn my trust and even then, I remember that their interests may be in conflict with the interests of me and my community.

    It’s also worth noting, the cis people who have mistreated me are WHITE and MIDDLE CLASS cis people. Black cis folks have shown up for me, Muslim and MENA cis folks have shown up for me, and poor/lower class folks have treated me well, especially those with multiple marginalization like mental health condition or neurodivergent folks.

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  • Nov 11, 2026, 2:40 PM

    @JoscelynTransient my unfortunate experiences as a trans person in counselling studies confirm this. Doesn't matter how forward-thinking, open-minded, or otherwise "good" cis people think they are, they end up punching down at me because of my transness, my otherness.

    And yep, all of the people I've had trouble with have been white. In fact, sad to say, not all of them have even been cis. But they've all been white.
    @CharlotteEowyn

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  • Nov 11, 2026, 3:13 PM

    @Tattie @JoscelynTransient @CharlotteEowyn I'm starting to truly grasp the concept of cisheteronormativity, feeling it in a tangible, practical way, and damn is it a bummer. I have been lucky with my therapist, at least, but it took me at least 5 tries. The first one I talked to about gender asked "are you sure you're not just a transvestite?" 😮‍💨

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