Have you ever noticed how much of self-help and therapy is victim blaming?

Issue: *People treat you badly*
Advice: You can't control others, but you can control your reaction to them.
Translation: You need to change to accommodate the bad behavior.

Issue: Bullying/Abuse
Advice: No one can do anything to you unless you give them the power to do it.
Translation: It's your fault for letting them do it.

Maybe I'm just too cynical. Maybe I've just dealt with too much crap to accept platitudes at face value.