@timnitGebru I once at a conference finally told off someone that was an absolute asshole. Obviously, I only felt safe because I’m senior and have privilege. It triggered an entire UW HR investigation after the guy claimed that I “verbally assaulted” him 🙄. Still worth it though.
@irene @timnitGebru At least you're not alone. It's common enough that the French have a delightful name for it: L'esprit de l'escalier. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/L%27esprit_de_l%27escalier
@irene Smh I did say some things to these people but I could have said better things. Yes still totally worth it because if you internalized then you would have harmed yourself more.