Picard coping tip: There is no strict timetable for dealing with loss. Everyone must find their way through grief in their own time.

woke 2.0 wins!
TOUT LE MONDE DETESTE LA POLICE

i don't wanna pay a vpn/domain pls just letmeuse my old pc and be stingy

pls automatic yunohost domains work

WTF IS A DNS AND WHY DOES IT WANNA HURT ME

excellent, highly insightful article about the most serious challenge that programmers face to our livelihoods today

except, it's from 1974

all the problems described in it got worse, perhaps because back then we collectively didn't take the labor framing seriously :(

https://archive.scienceforthepeople.org/vol-6/v6n4/pushing-professionalism/

Sono in fila per massacrarmi
Non ho tempo per radicarmi
Preferisco addormentarmi

Garak: If you wouldn’t trust their advice then don’t trust their criticism

https://nura.eco/blog/2026/09/27/nura-rename/
SARDINIA MENTIONED
#postmarketos #nura

https://epiloguegaming.com/what-do-we-do-with-jacob-geller/

https://www.resetera.com/threads/youtuber-and-minnmax-host-jacob-geller-accused-of-sexual-assault.1647682/

WTF Jacob Geller!!!!!! (read reply)

Taking a break from the #doomscrolling (stickycomics.com) #comic

I don't think i'm plural, but I don't believe in monomind either. I feel multiple parts of me pulling me in different directions, expecially in moments of crisis
I think a lot of these are common: inner child, inner critic, but also less discussed inner coper, the one that makes you go to sleep/bed or take drugs, and other learned coping mechanisms when things are bad or there is stuff you don't want to think about
A lot of this is covered by Internal Family Systems theory

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So, I have a bone to pick (so to speak).

There's this idea running around that in trans women, breast growth stops around the 2 year mark. That idea is completely incorrect.

(Note that, for the sake of simplicity, I'm going to refer to "cis girls" and "cis women" a lot, but what I really mean is "anyone who went through an estrogen-primary puberty and had roughly normal breast development" which is a lot to type out every time. And by "trans women" what I mean is "anyone who went through a testosterone-primary puberty without notable breast growth, and starts taking exogenous estrogen which stimulates breast growth." Also too much to type out every time.)

This completely incorrect idea is based (as far as I can tell) on a study by Meyer et al. in 1986: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/3013122/

It says, right there in the abstract:

Maximum breast growth required 2 years of [hormone] therapy.

I'm not going to pay $40 to read someone's out-of-date opinions on a cohort of 60 "transsexuals" and equine estrogen (aka premarin, aka the stuff we stopped using years ago), so I won't try to prove to you that this is true, but I have heard and fully believe that this study was funded for, yes, two years' time. That is, they ran the study for two years, then stopped.

Then they published their results.

And, sure enough, they saw the maximum breast growth after 2 years. Because that was the end of their study.

Now, unfortunately, a bunch of doctors who have "done their research" on trans medicine think that breast growth "plateaus" at 2 years (it says that in the study, too). They tell their transfemme patients this, resulting in a panicked frenzy when, at 2 years, said misinformed patient is freaking out over having barely any breast growth, much less what they were hoping for.

If you look up Puberty on Wikipedia, it includes this sentence:

On average, females begin puberty at age 10½ and complete puberty at ages 15–17

Now, I kinda hate math in this sort of message, but I'm gonna hit you with a bit of math here.

15 - 10.5 = 4.5
17 - 10.5 = 6.5

That is, on average, Wikipedia's authors think puberty lasts at least 4.5 years in cis girls, and can, again on average, last 6.5 years. There's no mention of outliers, but the phrase "on average" should tell you a lot (no one is actually average).

Now, let us turn our sights on the Wikipedia article titled Breast Development. It has this gem for us:

[Breast development] occurs across several phases, including prenatal development, puberty, and pregnancy. At menopause, breast development ceases and the breasts atrophy.

(Emphasis mine)

Hmm, how long is it between the onset of puberty and the start of menopause for most women? What's that, typically 35-45 years? Thanks, Wikipedia article on Menopause!

Now, obviously trans women aren't going around getting pregnant (if you are, let a girl know, I know a couple thousand trans women whose attention just got riveted). So that's not a useful factor for us.

But, like, let's look at the numbers again.

Onset of puberty is around 10 1/2 years of age in cis girls. Puberty is considered "done" around 16 years, roughly. Pregnancy changes things, typically between 18 and 30, for most people who get pregnant (I'm guessing, don't @ me). Menopause typically starts in the 45 to 55 range. During that entire time, breast development is happening.

If you compare cis women who are 16, and those who are, let's say, 22, you will typically see substantial differences in their bodies, without factoring pregnancy in. The colloquial term is "filling out." Their bodies change, and one of the things that fills out is typically their breasts.

But wait, I hear you shouting loudly at your computer monitor, 22 years old? That's [I count on my fingers] almost 12 years! Yes, that's right.

12 or so years of development gives cis women adult looking breasts.

Gee, I wonder if trans women, who are undergoing exactly the same puberty process as cis women, just later in life, might have a similar timing?

Like, I don't know how else to say it, my lovely transfemmes. At 2 years, your breast development is just getting started. Don't let Meyer et al, from 1986 -- under-funded science from fully forty years ago -- tell you how your body works. Don't let under-informed doctors tell you how your body works.

Yeah, 10-12 years is a long time. Even four and a half years seems pretty long. Of course, you can get surgical augmentation any time you like, it's your body, that's the whole point. Wear the push-up bra. Use those cutlets (silicone breast forms, if you don't already know the term). Cis women certainly do. You should too, if you want to.

But it's going to take a while for your breasts to fully develop, and you might be really happy with the result, if you can be patient and run the marathon without trying to sprint through it. My main point is, don't panic about some mythical yet oft-repeated 2 year number. It's absolute garbage.

oky it might have overdone it because i unticked whole word on AI, but it still feels like this lol

all my trending page is like this now /hj

girl! I could have just made a word filter for AI all this time! peace of mind

Samus Aran has got to be my ideal video game protagonist:

• is mostly a blank slate for the player to project themselves onto
• doesn’t talk
• looks like a hot human woman
• is actually a bioengineered living weapon who has fused with multiple eldritch entities to the point that even she doesn’t know what she is
• is beholden to no one and works completely alone
• always stoic and undaunted
• terrifies her enemies
• is unstoppable but in a way that’s high tech and femme and graceful all at once