Perhaps "up to traumatic"? I'm not claiming every conversation I've had felt like an existential threat.
The most recent I'd describe as such was about a year ago. It lasted well over three hours, starting from me saying that free movement at EU in context of social security is regulated, based on several court cases I cited.
It ended with them going through my message history and challenging my political views as fascist. And like a chump I tried to argue against.