But comparing gay porn to execution videos as if people taking part in a performance with consent is somehow the same as someone *literally being fucking killed* is just.. I don't even understand how a person could stitch those things together

If you don't like what a server hosts, block them. If you don't want to, that's on you.

It's absurd and entitled to expect other servers to curate your timeline for you, particularly when you can do it yourself.