It literally makes me feel sick every time I make one of these posts, but there's no getting around it, after I pay a bill we'll have $35 left of my plasma donation money for food this week and I think we're officially out of things to feed the kid.
My kid has food again, thank you all so much! :3hearts:

As ever, anything helps, including boosts.

$195/300

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Let this be a lesson to you: always indicate your injection site. Just press the cap, or literally anything else that will leave a little circular mark, into the skin so you have something to aim for. Makes everything 1000x easier.

It literally makes me feel sick every time I make one of these posts, but there's no getting around it, after I pay a bill we'll have $35 left of my plasma donation money for food this week and I think we're officially out of things to feed the kid.
My kid has food again, thank you all so much! :3hearts:

As ever, anything helps, including boosts.

$195/300

https://ko-fi.com/symtrkl

#MutualAid #MutualAidRequest #TransMutualAid

"Help save energy during the heat wave by turning up your thermostat temp."

How about fuck you. Go turn off the AI data centers first

I have 15 filters in place.

Of those 15, 9 of them are about topics that seriously impact my mental health. They range from genuine phobias, to the topics of rape, child sexual assault, and so on.

Across those 9 filters, a total of 50 words are specified.

Any post containing those 50 words is hidden behind a content warning for me so that, when I am best able to, I can still read through that post, thread, discussion, topic, or article.

I have taken it upon myself to filter out, as best i can, the things thst cause me harm when I use this site.

I still think people should use content warnings, liberally, on basically anything (within reason) that could make people's lives/mental health worse by constantly being confronted with it.

Why?

- My 9 filters of 50 words doesn't even make a mark in the number of words people use (and don't use) in their posts about triggering topics.

If your post is about rape or child abuse, but never once uses the word rape or child abuse (or instead uses something like "r*pe" or "grape"), then my filter doesn't pick it up and I, a survivor of multiple rapes and of child sexual assault, am now stuck reading a post that will trigger me, all because you think it infringes on your free speech to be asked to warn people about what you're talking about.

- A huge number of people, an ever growing number, do not include alt text in their images or videos, meaning a filter will not pick up on those things.

- You are not the only person talking about the thing. It might just be "one post" to you, but to others we're being bombarded with triggering material, daily

- While it absolutely is the responsibility of the user to take the neccessary precautions to make the internet safe for themselves, it is also the equal responsibility that we make it safe for others, by tagging posts correctly and warning users of what is being posted about...like a, uh...warning of content...

"What does 'Within Reason' mean?"

One of my filters is a personal phobia, it is the planet Jupiter. I do not expect the world to cater to such an obscure phobia, so I filter that myself, but I would expect people to warn about something like spiders or bugs, a fairly common phobia.

World politics, war, bigotry, sexual assault, etc, are not obscure topics and are widely accepted and known to cause mental health issues due to the 24/7 news cycle and the insistence that, like, every woman really needs to know how much men hate them, every BIPOC person needs to be made aware of racism, every trans person needs to be aware of every law and hate crime happening right now, etc. A content warning on topics like this is just...good etiquette, a courtesy to show you care more about the affected audience than you do about "engagement" on your post.

I can't filter out every single potential word that is in any way related to what could trigger me, but you can very easily give the briefest warning of the subject of your post, and if you slip up and somebody asks you to add one? It is not difficult, within reason, to add it.

"I Don't Know How To Explain To You That You Should Care About Other People"

But I've tried my best.

I need people to understand that #feminism is not as easily framed as "men vs. women".

The enemy is #patriarchy, which is a system that is propped up, yes, mostly by men, but also by women who gladly lick boots to defend crumbs they're thrown from the table, and assimilationsists of every marginalized community imaginable. The victims of patriarchy are fucking everybody, even and especially those who adhere most to its principles. So being a victim does not qualify for being anti-patriarchy.

Being against patriarchy does not just mean flipping around who holds the power, as that is just the same evil with new masters.

Being a feminist means to be a proponent of self determination. That means you're not a feminist if you gossip about a woman who wore the same killer outfit to two occasions. You're not a feminist if you ridicule a man for pursuing a harmless hobby with childlike joy. You're not a feminist if you gatekeep another persons identity. And many more instances.

None of us is perfect in these things. We're all victims, and sometimes we fail to live up to our ideal. That happens, we apologize, we become better. It happens because we live under patriarchy, where patriarchical thinking, sentiment, and precedence is normalized. While the feminist goal is to do away with all that, the feminist method is also identifying where it is - and sometimes we spot it in the mirror.

Feminism begins at yourself. The expectation of perfection is patriarchical. The execution of punishment is patriarchical. It is feminist to acknowledge the need for growth, to give room and opportunity for that, while working to repair damage done. Nobody is served by inflicting damage on someone willing to repair.

And just a reminder: Please don't censor yourself. If I follow you I want to see you - not some picture-perfect image.
Share your joys, your challenges, your disappointments, and your hurts.
You’re allowed to be human, with everything this entails. :purple_heart_flower:

Since I'm reboosting this again, may as well add the context:

Shinigami Eyes, marketed as a browser extension that marks accounts red or green based on how trans supportive they are, is notoriously biased against nonbinary, intersex, and transmasc accounts, and anyone who is not hostile toward them. It's not a recent thing either, folks have been pointing this out for years now.

And this is on top of the obvious issues with trusting an extension to make a value judgement for you, based on a list of unknown content, maintained by unknown actors, with literally zero oversight or accountability. Even if it worked as advertised, I'd still advise against using it, and actively did so even when I had a green name.

I won't judge anyone for not knowing all this, and I try not to think less of anyone who I see still using the extension. Because that's what we should be doing, judging people on their merits instead of handing the task over to a hate tool with an unearned good reputation.

Joking aside, I will not hesitate to call out Shinigami Eyes any time I see someone asking about an unexpected red name. What're they gonna do, mark me double red?

Apparently Shinigami don't like me.

Good.

Just call me Medusa, bitch. :neobot_fingerguns:

@catsalad You joke but I worked with a guy who tried to spoon his lift once.

:0_goose:

consent is real important until it's time to content warn your posts

Jab done, need to get up and get ready to go sell my blood so I'm done with that before a meeting I have to attend. And somehow work a call to DFS in there somewhere, too.

"My vibe isn't great this morning, I should do my shot and eat food about it."

She said before doubling down with an even less chill post.

"But Jenny you're unemployed, unable to afford food or rent, and will be selling your literal lifeblood for a scrap of currency later today."

Yeah, that's because I'm a stupid fucking drug addict. Well spotted.

I can't help but notice that even as this country tries harder and hard to openly declare it's intent to kill people like us, none of those effects seem to be filtering down in a meaningful way to me or the other white trans women.

If only there were some name for this phenomenon.

It adds insult to injury that the people who want us dead are of such low quality.

It reflects the lack of creative writing ability amongst fascists that no actor has leapt to a stage shouting "sic semper trannis."