Do we have a term for the subtle form of borderline abuse where a person asks you to explain something again and again, with the implication of "you never told me" or "you haven't explained it clearly enough" or "you haven't explained it in a way I understand", no matter how many times you have explained it and no matter how many different ways (verbal, written, kinesthetic step by step, emotional) you have explained it, and no matter on how many occasions you have "sat down to talk about it" or given unlimited time for question and answer and working through misunderstandings, such that the requirement of explaining it yet again and the required effort to do so becomes such a barrier that you give up on whatever commitments the person made to do the thing after them not doing it for so long and always pushing it back on you to carry the weight to explain again?
I feel like this is probably a shared autistic trauma but I lack the vocabulary to research it/figure out how to address it.
